Ever feel like "forgive and forget" is a nice idea that's really hard to actually 'do'?

by Louise Storey
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You're not alone. That struggle often isn't a personal failing; it's a sign that your mind is ready to move on, but your body is still holding on for protection.

If you've ever tried to 'think' your way into forgiveness and found it didn't stick, this might be a gentle invitation to try something different.

Instead of pushing the feeling away or distracting yourself (we've all gotten lost in our phones or busywork to avoid discomfort), what if you could just pause for a moment?

A small practice you can try right now:

1. Notice. Where in your body do you feel a sense of tightness, heaviness, or heat when you think of a past hurt? Just identify the sensation without judgment.
2. Breathe. Send one gentle breath to that area. You're not trying to change it; you're just acknowledging it, like saying, "I feel you there."
3. Allow. Let the sensation be there for just 30 seconds. That's all. No need to fix it or make it go away. Just offer it a little space.

This isn't about forcing forgiveness. It's about listening to your body's communication. Often, when we offer this kind of gentle attention, the body feels heard and can begin to naturally release what it's been holding. Forgiveness then unfolds on its own, from the inside out.

Be kind to yourself in the process.